The brutal gang-rape of a 23-year-old woman in New Delhi in December 2012, triggered nation-wide protests and rage among Indians. The terrible nature of the assault left the victim battling grave injuries to which she finally succumbed. In the wake of this incident, the courts sentenced the perpetrators to death.

Although this solution seems justified, is law enforcement really a permanent fix for a problem that seems to be very deep-rooted in today’s society? No, says Sadhguru. As he points out, “statistics say that 96% of the rapes happen within the four walls of the house. Law enforcement never gets involved in this. This cannot be contained by law.” The problem, he says is rooted in “investing too much in the physicality of life.”

In this video, he speaks at length about the issue of rape – why it happens and what are the most effective means of preventing such acts in society. Presented below are a few important snippets of his words.

Why Rape?

Sadhguru: It needs to be understood that though there may be a sexual stimulus to rape, it is not about sexuality alone. It is about the power to possess. This wanting to possess comes from various things. A fundamental mistake that societies have made is, somewhere in the minds of the youth, the male youth, we have put the idea that the female is an object, a thing that you can possess. Either somebody’s father can give her away, and if he refuses you can take her. It’s still there, isn’t it? In the background, somewhere very deep in the psychological structure there is an idea that a woman is a commodity. A commodity is something that doesn’t have a mind of its own. So this is in some places consciously implanted, and many other places unconsciously implanted. But it’s deeply implanted in people’s minds.

Will Punishment Really Work?

Sadhguru: So essentially, the problem is rooted in investing too much in the physicality of life. If societies or human beings who are experiencing their lives a little more than their physical boundaries, these things would simply go down, just like that. Maybe not eliminated, but it would go down dramatically and considerably to a point where a few offenders can be dealt with, with punishment. You cannot deal with a vast majority of population with punishment. Suppose 10, 15, 20 % of people are committing crime in a society, you cannot punish 20% of the population. If it is 1%, you can punish them, you can deal with punishment. You want to hang 20% of the population? That’s going to be worse than rape.

So punishment, people think, is a deterrent. To some extent it is, maybe. For most people it is not. They will just try to do it more carefully. They will try to take more precautions about it. Maybe because they have to take more precautions, it will come down a little bit. But when it is happening in one’s mind, it means that when there is an opportunity it will happen in reality.

One Forceful Act Leads to Another

Sadhguru: Whether the crime, or violence, or forceful acts are committed against a woman or a man, or a child, it’s the same thing. If we approve one forceful act, the other one will naturally evolve out of it. This starts from the home situation. If you can force-feed your child, you can be forcefully sexed also, tomorrow. I want you to understand this, this is how it starts. If you think you can force-feed your child, if you think force is okay as long as you get to do what you want to do, then everything else follows. We don’t want to destroy the root, we just want to prune the surface because right now it hurts us. That is not a solution.

The Solution

Sadhguru: There is a lot of looking at, that humanity has to do. One particular case of rape has brought the consciousness of the nation to a certain brink. Using this, it’s time that we look at the essentials of life.

The fundamental thing is that one wants to possess, humiliate, and subjugate another human being. This is happening because of a certain level of inadequacy, a certain level of incompleteness from within – that only by possessing something will you feel a little better. Whether to fulfill this possession you go shopping or you go raping, it’s the same thing. Something is inadequate, you want to fulfill this by getting something. This will find all kinds of ugly expressions. It will not stop at one thing.

So the solution is not in just containing it, the solution is in transformation of the individual human being. If the world has to change, the first thing is being willing to invest time for your own transformation. It is the main thing to do. If we do not transform individual people, you just have to do with a world full of criminals. Closet-rapist or street- rapist, not very different, isn’t it?

If this has to change, we need to understand that individual transformation is the most crucial thing. If we are not willing to invest in that, we just have to do with what we have and worse will come. Transformation means, who you are is not determined by other people’s opinions or other people’s presence. In this direction every parent must invest upon their children, to transform them into more inclusive human beings. Inclusion just means this – technically, who you are is not limited to the absolute boundary of your physicality. If it is little more, the very way you walk, breathe, and exist on this planet will be different, simply because your idea of who you are is beyond the boundaries of your physicality. If this one thing happens to the human being, suddenly he is different in every possible way.

So, investing in a spiritual possibility, a possibility beyond one’s physicality, is the only ultimate answer there is. If you want long term benefits, this is the long term answer.

Editor’s Note: Read Sadhguru’s insights into the basis of conflict, misconceptions about peace, and how each of us can help create a generation of peaceful human beings.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/vidy.uppaluru Vidy Uppaluru

    Human transformation really is the answer for all ills plaguing mankind right now. But specifically, for rape, the part of human transformation would and should include:

    1. Discipline and meditation.
    2. Control over the kind of food we intake. (coz food affects hormones, and hormonse control the weak minded’s body)
    3. Less and preferably no alcohol consumption except for medicinal purposes. (same thing… alcohol brings out the worst in a human out, not just while intoxicated, but it goes deeper into your mind and alters its purity)
    4. Television with sensors ensuring woman is not casted like an object of enjoyment or subjugation but a human that deserves the highest respect possible.

    • prathap

      Vettu pothinodu Vedam upadesichittu karyamilla. Guru had to think when we got freedom. Now men are worse. Fear is the best solution. How to make this practicable is our success. Sadguru thinks it is easy to give advice. Rape happens every day. It is an animal behavior. Use chooral vadi to correct people, next steps depending on severity of the victims.

  • Subramanian Ramki

    Transformation it is! One individual at a time, until the whole world is transformed. Jai Sadhguru!

  • http://ajithkumar.cc/ Ajithkumar Chandramouli

    Sadhguru, you failed to address one of the root causes. The dwindling sex ratios in the sates where rapes are prominent.. a state like haryana has a sex ratio in the 700s.. What will happen to those men who will not be able to marry or have a relationship? (it is not that other states have better sex ratio). How can such a society survive over the long run? By the design of it, every society will have more females than males (1020 to 1000). In our past atleast 10% of men became sanyasis.. which mean that marrying a women will not be as difficult as it is today.

    • mdb

      Previously men were eligible for marrying many, all maids were king’s property. mahabharat talks of queen draupadi married to five . all kings wanted sons only. rarely did they want a daughter . can’t understand this
      nor can I understand the sex ratio logic. a prostitute serves how many and they are ever growing . a man wanting more & more . moreover in India who would want a girl to be given to rascals. The choices of girls remain less . In muslim countries stories galore of young wives having relations outside marriage.
      Personally i feel that the sex ratio has nothing to do with such crimes. it is good if it is less as than marriage to a worthy man would serve the society better.

  • KannanR

    As much as the issue needs to be highlighted one needs to be careful about the sensationalism done by Media. I remember few years back the same national media houses used to give the victim’s details in the news and also publish it as the main news headlines. Now after repeated comments from bloggers over the years they have evolved and matured to conceal the identity of the victim. I’m still appalled by the number of advertisements when covering this issue. All the income from the sensational news coverage should be donated to help future rape victims.
    Whatever Sadhguru says is good as long term solution. But as we debate this issue somebody out there is having a bad deal. We can only pray for those victims whose cause is not getting attention of everybody.

  • Anonymous

    Equating Raping with Shoping just doesn’t make any sense at all.

    • brahm1952

      Sadguruji did not equate.This exactly is the problem. People should understand with right perception. Sadguruji described how a Girl / Lady is made a commodity.When you do shopping all you do is if you like a commodity buy it. The commodity what you purchase has no mind of its own otherwise it will decide whether you should be allowed to buy it or not. So you see a commodity in the shop, like it and buy it.Similarly when the hooligans saw the girl on the fateful night they decided to buy her meaning use her and used her and thrown her ( killed her) like you buy a Coke use and throw pack. This exactly what had happened to the girl.

      • Stacey Harger

        I didn’t see your post at first. Same direction.

    • Stacey Harger

      The statement is not about what someone is doing to another person. But what a person is getting from the experience itself.

      Sadhguru isn’t comparing the innocence of shopping (concerning being with another person)with the evasiveness of rape (on another person). But for a person to go shopping to get something for himself (materialistic means, like Sadhguru talked about the physical traits of the body being material) and seeking a person to (also) get something (physical).

      The perpetrator’s punishment – for the perpetrator – would seem the same to him(could be her) if he(she) were punished for stealing a pair of shoes (physicality) or for raping a person to ‘gain possession’ of the person’s physicality. Hence, transformation in the individual is the change people seek to end this rage. The once perpetrator understands what he’s focused on has no lasting value, no longer focusing on physical possession that has no real long term satisfaction (hence always wanting more and how the perpetrator’s cycle gets more aggressive and assaulting to subdue the ever growing desire to have physicality be eternally pleasing. It just won’t.) And now the perpetrator’s no longer one, his life’s changed without impulsive action, he’s transformed his views and life is uplifted around him.

      And this isn’t going into the topic about whether someone can forgive or not here, but when a person releases unwanted tendencies, everyone benefits emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually to his capacity.

  • KAMA

    SADGHURU I LIKE SEE TAMIL SPEAKS ………………………….
    KAMAL

  • brahm1952

    Sadguruji, Pranams,
    What a great thought and awareness that you have explained to us. Yes
    ” Investment in the Transformation” is the need of the hour. Not because of this rape incident , in general ,quality of people is deteriorating . People now invest in three things . (a) dogmatic arguments (b) Muscle Power.(c) Expertise to shift the blame on to others.

  • Karthik

    Thanks Sadguru. Sorry, Till day was beleiving that force feeding is fine as child needs the nutrition. But understand its wrong as it happens against the will of the child. But not sure how to convince or make a kid understand the importance of having proper diet. Can some one help me on the same…

  • Jaya

    Maa chinnamasta I bow down