Don't pretend to love them, just understand why they're irritating you. It's simply because they are not the way you expect them to be, they're not the way you want them to be. And you find this irritating. The person who irritates you also happens to be a creation of God and he seems to be such a masterpiece that he can just irritate the hell out of you. So if you believe in God, you have to acknowledge his creation.

Most of the time you succumb to irritation because you have already decided what is right and what is wrong and if they behave in any other way it starts to irritate you. In some cases you get angry, later you might generate hatred to the person and might even want to kill them. These are all natural processes. It happens simply because you are expecting everybody in the world to be like you. If everybody in the world were like you, could you be here? In your own home, if there was one more person like you, would you live in that house?

It's very good that everybody in the world is the way they are. Every human being is absolutely unique! Just look at the person sitting or standing next to you, and note that there is no other human being like him / her anywhere on this planet. There never was one and there never will be one. This is an absolutely unique human being. If you recognise that there is only one like this, that he is such precious material; how can he irritate you? For that matter everyone around you are absolutely unique human beings. There isn't another one like them. And it is such a miracle for you that today you are sitting next to this human being. If you can see this, where is the question of irritation?

You're blind; that is why you are irritated. You're simply blind to life. You have not opened your eyes and looked at life. Witness the uniqueness of all creation and become an outpouring of love.